What is Maturity truely?

Science defines Maturity as a psychological term used to indicate how a person responds to the circumstances or environment in an appropriate and adaptive manner.

Maturity is a tricky concept. It changes too often for the folks who are adaptive as the definition goes, It does not change quite so for the folks who are less adaptive and cognizant of the circumstantial changes. We often hear people saying "I am mature enough to decide" In fact we would have ourselves said the same dialogue at least once in life. How many times have repented that the decision we have taken should have been done in different manner? If we are matured then, why did the decision go wrong? Answer is simple, we are not matured enough for the decision when we took it and we are not cognizant of the matter at that point in time. And now with this failure if we are adaptive, we would become more mature than what we were at the time of decision.

Maturity grows with experience. It does not always grow with age. There by goes a saying that Young people knows rules and old people know exception to the rules. As we accumulate age as we live through life, we can say old men appear more matured than the younger folks, with some notable exceptions. I am more matured than what I was when I was teenager. When I was proposing to the girl I loved, I backed my self up thinking I am matured person. But looking back the act looks stupid now as I am more matured today than I was when I am in teenage. I am sure a vast majority of us would feel like undoing certain things we have done, if there is such a chance, isn't it. Similarly certain acts we commit today, might look similar way years down the line.

Is maturity attributable to mistakes we commit in life? It appears so. I commit a mistake in life and learn from the mistake and thus become more mature. But practically in the short span of life allotted, one cannot afford to commit all mistakes by himself and learn from them. So one can become more mature by learning from the mistakes other people make. One other major source of maturity is wise words from elders and from reading good books. Hindu system of education is based on this concept. The Rishis, who are learned people with high maturity levels, teach the students the knowledge and also document the wisdom in to various scriptures.

Absolute maturity is something that is difficult to comprehend as a concept. As indicated earlier if maturity is for ever growing phenomenon, then how can we define a absolute maturity at all. For material world it looks like a impossible thing to achieve. For spiritual world this is some thing that can be defined. Upanishads state "Brahmavid brhamaiva bhavati" meaning he who knows ParaBrahman or the ultimate reality becomes Brahman himself. So such people can be recognized as absolute matured ones.